|Engaged - 12/1984|
When Daryl and I married, we talked about having children and were planning to have them, but not right away. Like many we knew, we felt it would be best to wait to have children until we were "settled in." Since Daryl only had 9 months left in the Air Force, and the future after that was unknown, we formulated a "Five Year Plan." Much like many other couples or our era and most era's since then. We wanted to wait until Daryl was out of the Air Force, well started in his civilian career and we had purchased our first home. Sounded good, right?
Well, God didn't think so. He is greater than our plans. He is not limited by our plans. He knows better than we do what is best for us. We found out just weeks before he was to get out of the Air Force that we were expecting our first baby. Even though we had "other plans" I was thrilled. I had always wanted to be a mommy - it was the ultimate life goal for me. So we rolled with it.
We adjusted our vision of our future and worked around being parents. It wasn't nearly as hard as I thought it would be, but it wasn't easy....not by a long shot. We had hoped that I would be a stay at home mom, but that wasn't in the plan either. I ended up working part time in a business that we were partners in with Daryl's parents. But God used that in my life to develop much of my ideas and perspectives about mothers working outside the home - it's hard on the mom, it's hard on the kids and it's hard on the marriage. Even though we worked together (and we worked well together), it was hard for me to be the kind of wife and mother I should be when I was spending so much time away from home, and coming home tired, with children who had been away from home all day saving up their naughtiness for when we got home.
Looking back helps me to remember that God does have a plan for me, but it might not always seem like the best plan while I am in the middle of the tough times. But I can reflect on all the blessings the Lord has given us and know that He not only had a plan, but he currently has a plan for my future. One of my favorite verses in scripture is Jeremiah 29:11 - "For I know the plans that I have for you," declares the Lord,"plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope." What comfort that is.
|Our first born son, Jeremy|
Born 16 months after we were married